Robot Heart: Sex, Religion, and Politics: metheliving: ... I do think basing your dating preferences on race is...

Robot Heart: Sex, Religion, and Politics: metheliving: ... I do think basing your dating preferences on race is...

metheliving:
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I do think basing your dating preferences on race is problematic. While I think it is problematic no matter what race you are and no matter what race you claim preference for, I think it is particularly problematic for white people to argue that they are specifically attracted…

Well, we will just always disagree that the fact that someone tends to be attracted more to Asians is racist especially if it’s a white person. That in and of itself is placing some sort of strange assumption on everyone white that they cannot be attracted to certain things because they are the majority. Being a majority does not exempt someone from human feelings and thoughts and ration. I will also disagree with the person who thinks it’s a fetish. It’s only a fetish if it’s your primary thought. A fetish is an obsession. It’s what you think about all the time. You wouldn’t stray from it if it were a fetish. You would want to be with all Asians with disregard to their personality or anything else. You probably would dismiss anyone of any other race. There is a line between stating you’re attracted to people and becoming obsessed with an entire race and dehumanizing them. Broadly categorizing every person who claims they are attracted to certain racial groups as fetishizing them is just another form of a false grouping of people.

Also, I don’t think that something is true simply because it is believed/stated by a person of that race. When the tea-baggers claim they’re being discriminated against with reverse-racism, that holds no authority. No one is discriminating against them other than over their stupidity.

The reason I wrote that I was already in a conversation with the man was to clearly identify the fact that we had already established a connection and were already acquainted with each other. I would never have contemplated asking him if we had not already established that and if I hadn’t had any reason to ask him (again, because we could have had something in common to talk about). It’s also why I mentioned that I had payed his parking fee. If I am out to be evil against him, it’s very unlikely that I would have forked over a good $30 to this guy. I understand that it’s a safety concern, which is exactly why it bothered me. That was one of my points. The fact that we have to deny or hide our race/religious views/etc. because of scary, evil people who are irrational is absurd and upsetting.

I also wasn’t complaining and I had clearly thought about this man’s feelings. I was stating my thoughts on Tumblr because at the time I was upset that I had reason to feel uncomfortable asking because of how society reacts to race currently. I obviously knew that my intentions were not malicious, and the fact that I did not ask him the question was exactly because of all the evil comments I received when I simply posed the situation. There was a likelihood that he could have assumed I was meaning to judge him based upon his answer because I am white in America.

I also said thatI think we should be able to ask questions about other people without it seeming malicious/with ill-intent. I didn’t say that I have the authority to set the rules for it and I didn’t mean to imply that these people even had to answer my question with anything other than a roll of their eyes.

Yes. Exactly. It can be misconstrued as racist, exactly like you did to my first post. Which is why I posed the question, “Where is the line between being able to acknowledge race and being scared to even mention it as a white person for fear of extremely hateful backlash?” I think it’s absurd and sad that in the 21st century asking about a person’s race/ethnicity/etc. can still be misconstrued as malicious or judgmental. Do POC want everyone in America to literally just always ignore race? Do POC ignore race? Should culture disappear? Should ethnicity go away? I’m truly sorry that we have such a society that fosters people to become upset when they are asked about their heritage.

Basically what you have just argued is that, no. A white person in America should not be allowed to ask someone, even in a legitimate conversation, what their ethnicity is or where they’re from. If that’s what you think, fine.

Although you still were making assumptions about me (especially about my thoughts, which you clearly know nothing about eg. that I don’t think twice about asking where someone’s from or that I’m unaware of the person’s feelings whom I’m talking with…if that were the case, I would have simply asked the man the question and this conversation between us would never have happened) in your response, thank you for being more congenial and not ripping me apart unduly with false accusations.

I realize it could possibly seem insensitive/inappropriate from their point of view which was the reason I talked about it in the first place. It makes me upset that such a harmless question on the surface, in our society today, could cause such hate and slander.

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